Flavored with the sights and sounds of the ’70s, Not Exactly Love: A Memoir (She Writes Press) is the riveting story of one woman’s struggle to build the strength within to break free from an abusive relationship.

"Prose that vividly and courageously articulates a cautionary tale of abuse..." Kirkus Reviews

"Exceptionally well written, brutally candid, and ultimately inspiring." Midwest Book Review

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"Breaking the silence about the complex dynamics of abusive relationships is the most powerful act anyone--victim, bystander, or perpetrator--can take. Bravo to Betty Hafner!"   Leslie Morgan Steiner, author of the New York Times best seller, Crazy Love

“Betty Hafner eloquently writes about being in an abusive relationship . . . A powerful example of how people can gather the courage and insight to create a better life."     Rosalind Wiseman, author of the New York Times best seller, Queen Bees and Wannabes

"Why do women stay--and how do they gain the courage to leave? Betty Hafner's memoir is both a courageous portrait of a woman and her will, and a moving guide for women who are also dealing with the horrors of domestic violence. Her story will resonate with some and give spirit to others, and is an indelible document for readers and feminists everywhere."     Lizzie Skurnick, author of Shelf Discovery

 "Hafner's deft prose puts the reader inside the story, revealing in intimate detail the anguish of ongoing physical abuse, the slow building of a victim's agency, and finally, the redemptive power of boldly taking back one's freedom."     Robin Rinaldi, author of The Wild Oats Project

“Betty Hafner’s intelligence is on display throughout. She shares such piercing insights that burst the bubble of attraction, enabling, love and marriage, family repression, and the complexity of domestic entanglements—and her atmospheric elements do a wonderful job of giving fullness to the scenes.”     Matthew Klam, author of Who is Rich?: A Novel